Feature of the week

Remember as you take your journey to inner Peace and success make sure that you have the right people around. You don’t need no pebbles in your shoes causing you discomfort and pain remove those pebbles out of your life so your walk will be enjoyable and more easier. #feature of the week#the great Muhammad Ali#blog#realtalkwithmatty

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Good morning

As you search for inner peace make sure that you don’t lose yourself getting wrapped up in other people idea of you. Take the time to discover who you really are accept your past mistakes learn from them so you can grow and become a better person. Good morning people have a awesome day. #good morning#blog#realtalkwithmatty

Positive

In a world full of negativity you have to remind positive focus on the good thing. Appreciate what you have now live for every moment learn about yourself and accept it. Be happy with life and move forward towards greatness. #positive#realtalkwithmatty#blog

Mental Health Hotline | 24 Hour Mental Health & Illness Helpline

https://www.nami.org/Find-Support/NAMI-HelpLine/Top-25-HelpLine-Resources

This time of the year is rough on a lot of people. Missing loved ones friends or maybe you are feeling lonely sad or depress. I have added a link in the post if you need to talk with someone or past it on if you know anyone that might need help dealing with every day life and the holidays.

I think in today’s society people are worried about the stigma of being called crazy therefore some people won’t seek the help that they need. Don’t let anyone stop you from helping yourself their no need to suffer in silence if you don’t have to. Remember no one will take care of you better then you.

Good morning

Good morning everybody it’s Friday I hope you have a productive happy and positive day. Don’t let nobody stop you from living your life or filling your dreams run your race. Enjoy the rest of your day stay focus hungry positive and move in silence.✌️

Kareem Abdul-Jabbar on protest pushback: ‘They don’t like the message’

Kareem Abdul-Jabbar on protest pushback: ‘They don’t like the message’

https://www.usatoday.com/story/sports/nba/2017/09/27/kareem-abdul-jabbar-protest-pushback/710808001/

Shared from my Google feed

Russians linked to political Black Lives Matter ad on Facebook targeting Baltimore

Russians linked to political Black Lives Matter ad on Facebook targeting Baltimore

http://www.baltimoresun.com/news/maryland/politics/bs-md-cnn-facebook-20170927-story.html

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# Knowing yourself and Loving yourself

I choose the titled knowing yourself & loving yourself for this blog  because the words are powerful.   There are so many people that will sacrifice their own happiness just to please others( that’s sound like a recipe for disaster).

You can’t make anyone else happy if you’re not happy with you first.   People spend so much time trying to please everyone else but will ignore themself.  Your very own star player (you) how are you going to try to please everyone else but push your feeling morals and believes to the side and still make your self happy you can’t if you believe that you’re lying to your self.  To know yourself is to be honest with yourself  to shine in your own truth and except your  own faults.

I think the serenity pray said it best god grant me the serenity to accept the things I can not change courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference it all starts with you.  You can’t truly love someone if you don’t love yourself first know your own worth.  Asked yourself when you start looking for a mate what do you look for first in a person do you look inward to a person heart and soul, or do you look outward at beauty looks and big body parts ( what ever you like).

When you’re looking to start  a relationship what type of person are you look for a materialistic person or  maybe a self-indulgent individual with that you get the lies games and  immaturity.   Or do you look inward to a person heart morals values honest and mature.

Asked yourself  this when you in a relationship are you the victim or are you the bully what I mean by this  is are you the person who keep complaining about how someone is treating you.  Keep lying to you being disrespectful  putting your feeling on hold cheating on you (the victim) or are you the type of person who stand up for their beliefs ( right or wrong) what todays society like to call  ( the bully).

Everything starts with you.   You are the question and the answer.   You may ask why do people keep lies to me ignore your feeling mistreated me (the question) because you haven’t required them to treat you any different and you allow it. ( the answer)   When you keep doing the same thing but you are looking for different results that’s insane .

Have you ever been in a relationship with someone and you tell them you don’t appreciate something but they keep doing it over and over again and you look at them like why don’t they get it maybe it’s not them maybe it’s you.   If you tell a person the same thing 356 what you think they going to get it 357 may be you should change your mindset.  People can only do what we let them do. Everything starts with you love yourself first and  the rest will follow.

 

# middle-aged life crisis

40 is the new 30 (LMBO) well maybe not for the responsible adults 40 is the same old 40 and these are the times you’re planning for your future and your retirement some people are still taking care of school age kids while some others maybe taking care of their aging parents as well.

Throw in spouses or partners along with work and co-workers don’t forget about family and friends all the while you trying to secure your future enjoy your life and maintain your own sanity and peace of mind.  Well welcome to another episode of this is your life I’m your host Realtalkwithmatty today show is midlife crisis destination straight ahead.

 

Can you imagine dealing with all the situations that I just mentioned all at once this could make your life a little stressful all the while you are not trying to lose yourself in the midst of it all. Taking care of your parents can be a job within itself especially if they are used to being independent and now they have to depend on others for help.  Doctor’s appointments making sure their taking medicine on time or even mild suggestions can become a war within itself dealing with your parents especially if you’re dealing with somebody who used to taking care of their own affairs and not answering to anybody this could be problematic and a recipe for disaster and now you got a fight on your hands.

 

 

With a pinch of not cooperating an unwillingness to make change a dash of I raised you fool don’t tell me what to do. Throw in a little bit of stubbornness and now you’re smack in the mist of a battle a middle age battle between you and your parents you might lose some battles but the objective is to win the war to make your parents last moments on earth as peaceful and relaxing as possible.

Now the battle with your parents is enough to deal with by itself but sometimes you face different wars on different fronts as well your kids spouses or partners dealing with family and friends can seem overwhelming at times. One thing that’s important that you need to remember is you need to take care of your star player (you) before you will be dealing with your own midlife crisis.

 

A midlife crisis could be a major life experience such as dealing with the loss of loved ones or a loss of a job an affair maybe the feeling of loneliness or abandonment a divorce this could lead to feeling depression remorse anxiety for others they have desire to achieve youthfulness or make drastic changes in their lifestyle.

Dealing with all the situations that I mentioned earlier can be quite overwhelming at times the parents kids spouses or partners work and coworkers all the while you’re trying to take care of your own needs. In these times one thing you have to remember is you have to take care of yourself and make time for yourself to enjoy life regroup and relax. Your no go to any one if you’re somewhere upset and stress.  Remember you can only control you and your actions. And to those who have not experience this yet. Midlife crisis coming to a lifestyle near you.

 

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