# The unsung heroes 

I was at work the other day and me and my Co-works was talking about our kids each one of us sharing our own fun story’s about the kids.

Pat was showing a video of his daughter eating lemons for the first time, pat was laughing so hard at the faces that she had made, standing there grinning like a proud dad living and loving the moment, and then there Mr. Gordy ( a.k.a cheesey bread )  talking about how his son and daughter are growing up so fast and talking about making plans for their future, as they were talking I was laughing inside I could see the joy on their faces as they tell stories about their kids now for me these types of conversations are normal with us but if you listen to society hogwash father are extinct as the dinosaur, after they were done talking the first thing I said to them was to cherish every moment.

Now if you listen to society and their stats talking about single black women raising their kids by their self the number are alarming.  According to the stats over 80% of black women take care of their children by their self with no type of help from the fathers.  That stats alone will have some people scratching their head but who’s to say how accurate they are . 


 There are different reason why some  father’s are not in their kids lives from the deadbeat dad, to the father’s that want to spend time with their child and be part of their lives but can’t for all the wrong reason.   Sometimes in life there is consequence, for every action there a reaction ( good or bad) and with every coin theirs always two sides of the coin and there are some women who use their kids like  chess piece’s for their own personal gain or maybe selfish reasons.

But right now I want to talk about the dads that spend time with their kids the father’s that instill values, teaches responsibility morals and respect while spending quality time with their kids.

One of my favor blog is I love my walk home I talk about how I didn’t spend as much time with my older children as I would have like to  but one thing I’ve learned over the years is to enjoy every moment and I did, however limited the time may be, any type of time is always good when use wisely.   When it comes to people attitudes and emotions take over in the ties can turn quickly what started off as calm  beautiful Waters today can turn into tomorrows dark gleaming typhoon in a matter of seconds.

So with each and every time that you spend with your child it a moment in time  for you and your kid to laugh learn grow teach listen bond together but most of all create memories that no one can take away.

In a society were they seem to preach and teach separatism between men and women I just want to acknowledge the biological father’s stepfather’s and father’s figures and  that make an effort to be in their kids life the men that’s their at school functions ball games, ballet and cheerleading competitions to help with homework, be there when your kid is sick and there just to talk and listing or maybe give a helping hand I salute you The unsung hero.



#My Happiness 

Two years ago I had a real talk moment with myself and I didn’t like the answer that I got.  Have you ever been fed up with grown ass people who has nothing better to do then keep some type of drama going like an episode of Love & Hip Hop.

That was me two years ago just tried of the drama an gossip same old daily routine.   For me it serve no purpose to give my point of view on someone else situation especially if the person didn’t ask me for my view on the matter nor am I doing anything to make their problem better.

If I’m minding my own business and taking care of my own affairs that doesn’t leave me with a lot of  time to be worried about any body else life or situations I’m too busy securing my own peace of mind and happiness to medal in anyone else life once I adopted this method life became a whole lot easier for me.

wp-image--630721485Always remember misery loves company and always looking for new friends to add to it’s ever growing list of miserable people for some people drama conflict stress is not just a way of thinking but away of life for me I rather be happy  and stay positive a great mindset with positive thoughts bring positive energy .

wp-image--396422394Think about in this perspective when you trying to live healthier you eat right exercise diet all in the hope for a better life  the same could be said with your mindset positive thoughts bring positive energy and positive result.   If you do this with your body you should also do the same with your mind when you start eating healthy you eat plently  of fruites and veagetale so  we can say the same thing about ones mindset positive perspective self-esteem and appreciate what they all ready  have will be a key ingredient to happiness.


One of the most inport thing in life is ones peace of mind and happiness and you shouldn’t let anyone dictate it for you no one should never have that much power over life and your happiness.  Happiness is found when you stop comparing your life to other people and started appreciate yours.   Sometimes we put to much stock in other people through and feeling and not enough into our own stock happiness lyes wit in sometimes you just have to give it a chance.



# Life live it to the fullest

Today’s blog is about life and what does it mean to you .When you talk to people about life and it every day challenges you will get some interesting conversation depending on who you talk to, you will get the good, the bad and the ugly about life. What is the meaning of life, when you look up the definition it tells you life is a philosophical and spiritual conception of the significance of living or existence. Ask yourself this are you a person who is grateful that you woke up this morning , another day to enjoy life smell the flowers, hear the birds sing, or see a beautiful sun set, it’s also another day to live your dream, another day to love enjoy your love ones and live life to the fullest  no one is promise tomorrow, so enjoy life-like it’s your last day on earth, or are you a person who only see the negative in everything, never seem happy with anything or anyone.


I read a post the other day that said the worst person to be around is someone who complains about everything and appreciates nothing , I believe that statement 100%, no matter what you are going through someone is always worst off then you. You can’t complain if your on the side line watching the game instead of participating in the game , YOU are in control of your LIFE weather you do right or wrong ,if you’re a good human being or a bad one it is your choice and it is also your choice to enjoy life or let it pass you by. Every day living has it own pitfalls and challenges, people will have up and down in their life you will have times when life will knock you on your ass, but you have to keep going, keep trying, no one is going to break their neck and help you if you’re not helping yourself first, love yourself and believe in yourself  it starts with you, positive thoughts bring positive results, the five rules to a happier life.

1.Love yourself

2.Do good

3.Always forgive

4.Harm no one

5.Be positive


You only get one shot at life so why not explore new thing, see some beautiful places and meet new people live life to the fullest. Instead of look at pictures of Paris why not make plans to go to Paris, we as people will put stuff on hold putting everything and everyone needs before yours , there nothing wrong with helping people, or planning for your retirement the main thing you have to remember is to enjoy life and live in the now,  I had an older gentleman I would talk to we would talk about everything sports, news, life etc. his nickname was Hollywood one day he started tell me about the love of his life Missy and how they were planning for their wedding. One day Missy asked Hollywood about going away for a couple of weeks to London just to get away before the wedding, Missy away want to go to London, Hollywood told Missy to wait until after the wedding they could go to London , Hollywood said we have plenty of time for that, Hollywood was wrong, 8 months later Missy feel ill  a few months after that Missy pasted away, Hollywood said his whole world came crashing down on him he thought that they had their whole life ahead of them to travel and see all the places that they had talk about, Hollywood said his biggest regret was not taking Missy to London.

Their’s a old saying here today and gone tomorrow, that is so true you  only have one life enjoy it . You can have your head down grinding  planing for your future, only to look up and time has passed you by.