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My corporation

Imagine you’re CEO of your own company how would you run it…

If you’re in charge of a major company (like AT&T) you wouldn’t let someone come in and  destroy the company or devalue it nor would you let them bring your stock down in your corporation before you say enough is enough and get rid of them.  So the same method can be used for a relationship.  The other day I got dragged into a convention two women was having. Complaining about their relationships I thought this was Subway eat fresh not hay stranger do you want to hear this.


Finger pointing 101

Now I don’t mind listening or helping somebody if I can. I believe in today’s society we play the victim too much and not taking enough responsibility for our own part in a situation.  The taller of the two women ask me excuse me sir would you respect a man who always cheat and lies to you well you shouldn’t a real man wouldn’t respect that.

It was obvious that the woman already had her mind made up and really didn’t want to hear what I had to say. I guess I was there for moral support or maybe an honorary girlfriend for the moment.

The women then stated I wasted 10 years fooling with him. Now its human nature to complain about stuff that we have control of but won’t do nothing to change your situation or fix it. People can only do what we allowed them to do.

So you can’t complain about someone’s ruining your life and you’re sit right there in the passenger seat watching the accident about to happen. Stop playing the victim and take charge of your life and become your own hero.wp4phone_20160919181102_1



As I excused myself from the lady’s I thought to myself sometimes in life you have to think outside the box.  Ask yourself this do you know your own worth. If you’re the CEO of a fortune 500 company ( your relationship) that means you’re in charge of the daily operations such as hiring firing and routine over seeing of the company .

Your responsibility for whom to hire and are they a good fit for your company. Will they show a good return on your investment and increase your company growth.

You made a decision and hired a new employee and business is flourishing life is good and everything is going well. So well that you are thinking about merging the 2 company’s together and making them a shareholder in the company. ( remember always keep the majority stock in your own company)

The first couple of years are going well. A new partnership between you and your new employee is great your company is growing profits are on the rise. But just like with companies (relationship) sometimes hit rough and turbulent time. When that moment occurs what are you going to do ( Mr. Mrs.) CEO.


Ownership is required

Your company profits are down marketing sales and productions are at an all-time low it might be time for you to make tough decisions like cut back and layoffs. As the CEO of your own company are you going to sit by and watch your company crumble crash and burn by somebody else’s hands or are you going to do something to prevent this.

The same philosophy can be used in relationships . Sometimes in relationships we put more stock into other people then we do ourselves.

Listening to the lady at subway talk about her man and blaming the whole 10 years on him without no accountability for her own action in the relationship is ludicrous.  If you’re the CEO of your company then you’re in charge of the entire operation. The hiring the firing the disciplinary actions nothing shouldn’t happen without your permission remember you are the only one who should have the majority control of your corporation.

Monday morning

Good morning everybody it’s Monday. I’m publishing a new blog next Saturday. Everyone have a great day and remember positive mindset brings positive thoughts brings positive energy.

# What’s up with you

I got a notification from my blog the other day. I’m thinking that it was a comment a new subscriber or maybe a like to the blog. But that wasn’t the case.

It was a personal message from someone I went to high school with. He started the message by telling me how he still get women and how everyone is jealous of him then 2 seconds later the turn around and said o yeah I heard you doing your little thing with your blog.(SMH bless his heart)

Now this particular individual always kept drama going with him and by the tone of the text it seem like things haven’t changed over the years.

Now at first I didn’t know how to respond to this message. But with age comes wisdom and sometimes you have to ignore people and let them be who they are. So you wanted to know what I’ve been up to player since the last time I saw you.

This year started off with a bang I was part of the negotiation team for a new contract on my job and we were successful one of the best contracts in quite some time. I really enjoyed the experience this time around the first time was back in 2001 and it was very stressful. I believe life is the best teachers if you come with an open heart mindset and the willingness to listen and learn.

A new NFL season is upon us but I decided to take the NFL Blackout Challenge. We as people can’t keep on complain about nobody helping us and we are not helping ourselves.

Then turn around and support their causes when they don’t give a damn about ours. Colin Kaepernick said he was protesting against police brutality towards the minority community so I’m standing with kap.

Am I My Brother’s Keeper. Yes I am in these day and time we need more shepherds we got plenty of sheep already.

I’m still down for the cause like I just left Washington DC and it October 16 1995.

Working on a new project trying to figure out a way to bring good energy to a city that’s hurting and show it in a positive light instead of the darkness that you see on TV.

Like Baltimore rapper Tana said I’m just trying to give them hope. The wife is fine and gorgeous as ever my kids are grown and doing well I’m well life is great. School just started up so it’s straight home to help mike mike with her homework.

Still keeping tabs on the older ones Marcus Marcia and Courtney. I get to see them every once in a while just trying to stay involved and connected in their lives. All of them can be stubborn from time to time like their pops but what can I say their all my baby’s so daddy has to keep an eye out for them.

As for me I learned a long time ago that people will try to discredit you or belittle what you’re doing when in fact all they doing is hating from the sidelines and watching your every move so I stay humble and quiet. I staying busy with work wife kids business still maintaining time for myself and family.

I’m still at JHU fighting the good fight I’m about to introduce to the world Alton Jones coming to Realtalkwithmatty blog near you so stay tuned. This is what I’ve been up to. What have you been up to player?

# middle-aged life crisis

40 is the new 30 (LMBO) well maybe not for the responsible adults 40 is the same old 40 and these are the times you’re planning for your future and your retirement some people are still taking care of school age kids while some others maybe taking care of their aging parents as well.

Throw in spouses or partners along with work and co-workers don’t forget about family and friends all the while you trying to secure your future enjoy your life and maintain your own sanity and peace of mind.  Well welcome to another episode of this is your life I’m your host Realtalkwithmatty today show is midlife crisis destination straight ahead.

Can you imagine dealing with all the situations that I just mentioned all at once this could make your life a little stressful all the while you are not trying to lose yourself in the midst of it all. Taking care of your parents can be a job within itself especially if they are used to being independent and now they have to depend on others for help.  Doctor’s appointments making sure their taking medicine on time or even mild suggestions can become a war within itself dealing with your parents especially if you’re dealing with somebody who used to taking care of their own affairs and not answering to anybody this could be problematic and a recipe for disaster and now you got a fight on your hands.



With a pinch of not cooperating an unwillingness to make change a dash of I raised you fool don’t tell me what to do. Throw in a little bit of stubbornness and now you’re smack in the mist of a battle a middle age battle between you and your parents you might lose some battles but the objective is to win the war to make your parents last moments on earth as peaceful and relaxing as possible.

Now the battle with your parents is enough to deal with by itself but sometimes you face different wars on different fronts as well your kids spouses or partners dealing with family and friends can seem overwhelming at times. One thing that’s important that you need to remember is you need to take care of your star player (you) before you will be dealing with your own midlife crisis.

A midlife crisis could be a major life experience such as dealing with the loss of loved ones or a loss of a job an affair maybe the feeling of loneliness or abandonment a divorce this could lead to feeling depression remorse anxiety for others they have desire to achieve youthfulness or make drastic changes in their lifestyle.

Dealing with all the situations that I mentioned earlier can be quite overwhelming at times the parents kids spouses or partners work and coworkers all the while you’re trying to take care of your own needs. In these times one thing you have to remember is you have to take care of yourself and make time for yourself to enjoy life regroup and relax. Your no go to any one if you’re somewhere upset and stress.  Remember you can only control you and your actions. And to those who have not experience this yet. Midlife crisis coming to a lifestyle near you.


NBC to produce series following a fictional Baltimore mayor

NBC to produce series following a fictional Baltimore mayor


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