When did people marriages become a public discussions or a town hall meeting. Why are so many people in marriages are inviting guests into their relationships or what I like to call unwanted outside Consultants.
Theirs nothing wrong seeking advice from a true friend we all need help from time to time. A true friend will have your best interest at heart not choosing sides in the matter. Just giving their honest opinion straight no chaser even if that means checking you sometimes.
Now so-called friends are totally opposite they don’t come with an objective opinion about your relationship or situation they are strictly bias ready to cause mayhem and havoc to your relationship and before you know it you have a relationship invasion on your hands.
Give them an inch they will take a yard
There’s an old saying you wouldn’t invite the fox into the hen-house so you need to be careful who you discuss your marriage or relationship with remember misery loves company and sometimes misery bring their banana cream pie recipe with them. ( ready to mess up your relationship )
like I mentioned before a true friend will be there for you to give support and not picking sides or being judgmental trying to give good advice. If the person that you’re talking to is not providing that you might want to rethink discussing your relationship with them.
We all have had a moments in our relationships when you needed to vent to someone about your relationship. Sometimes problems can arise if you’re not talking to a mature person. Give a person an inch they will take a yard and some people don’t understand that you’re venting and not looking for allies in a war and sometimes you have to remind yourself the same thing. You can’t get mad at somebody if you inviting them into your house and they got their feet up on your coffee table. People can only do what you allow them to do.
Commitment or confusion
Most people remember the ceremony when they got married but seems to forget the words to the wedding vowels on that day love honor cherish in sickness and health forsaking all others as long as both of you shall live till death do us part.
You made a commitment between yourself your partner and God and now you’re trying to renegotiate the commitment and add an outside consultant for advice to the mix.
In today’s society it seems to be normal to discuss your problems with everybody except the person that you’re in a relationship with your partner. And to me that seems asinine you wouldn’t ask a cat for stock advice so why would you ask somebody who’s miserable about relationship advice. When you started the relationship it was only you and your partner so only you and your partner should have a say-so in the matter and if you need a mediator it should be God.