I used the titled knowing yourself & loving yourself because they are powerful words. There are so many people out here who would sacrifice their own happiness just to please someone else, that’s a recipe for disaster. You can’t make anyone else happy, if you’re not happy. People spend so much time trying to please everyone else but will ignore your star player (you), how are you going to try to please everyone else but push your feeling, morals and believes to the side, and still make your self happy, you can’t you’re lying to your self. To know yourself is to be honest with yourself, to shine in your own virtues and except your faults. I think the serenity pray said it best god grant me the serenity to accept the things I can not change courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference, it starts with you. You can’t truly love someone if you don’t love yourself first, know your worth. Asked yourself when you start looking for a mate what do you look for first in a person do you look inward to a person heart and soul, or do you look outward at materialistic things and looks . When you look for materialistic people, self-indulgent people you get the lies, the games the immaturity, or do you inward for a person with morals, values, honest and mature. Asked yourself are you the victim or are you the bully what I mean by that is are you the person who keep complaining about how someone is not treating you right, keep lying to you putting your feeling to the side, cheating on you (the victim) or are you the type of person who stand up for their beliefs have morals values give respect and demand respect ( the bully). Everything starts with you, you are the question & the answer people asked why do so and so always lies to me ignore my feeling mistreated me (the question) , because you have not required them to treat you any different ( the answer) when you keep doing the same thing but you are looking for different results that’s insane . Have you ever been in a relationship with someone and you tell them you don’t appreciate something that they are doing, but they keep doing it over & over & over again and you look at them like why they don’t get it, what I’m trying to tell them maybe it’s not them maybe it’s you, who doesn’t get it if you tell a person the same thing 356 what you think they going to get it 357 may be you should make a change, it starts with you . Love yourself first and everything else will follow.