The other day I got dragged into a convention two women was having complaining about their relationships I thought this was Subway eat fresh not hay stranger do you want to hear my mess now I don’t mind listening or helping somebody but sometimes we played a victim too much in society. The taller of the two women ask me excuse me sir would you respect a man who always cheat and lies on you well you shouldn’t a real man wouldn’t respect that.
It was obvious that the woman really didn’t want to hear what I had to say she already had asked me to question and answered at the same time I guess I was there for moral support or maybe I was an honorary girlfriend for the moment the women said I wasted 10 years fooling with him.
It’s human nature to complain about stuff that we have control of but won’t do nothing to fix it. People can only do what we allowed them to do so you can’t complain about someone’s ruining your life and you’re sit right there and watching them do it and don’t do nothing to prevent it, stop playing the victim and become your own hero.
As I excused myself from the lady’s I thought to myself sometimes in life you have to think outside the box know your worth. Think about in this perspective as far as your relationship goes you are the CEO of a fortune500 company and you’re in charge of whom to hire and who would be a good fit for your company to run the daily operations.
After months of carefully going through application you finally picked your candidate the one that will help you increase your earnings and help your company grow your new COO.
The chief operation officer (COO) handle issues related to marketing, sales, production, and personnel. Your new COO of your company is everything that you imagine your profits and business is flourishing life is good and everything is going well so well that you are thinking about making your COO a shareholder in the company. ( Always keep the majority stock in your own company)
The first two years of the new partnership between you and your new COO works great!!! together your companies on the rise. Just like with companies relationship sometimes hit rough and turbulent time to.
Now the next 8 years for you are not so great when it comes to your company business is down profits is down marketing sales and productions are at an all-time low it might be time for cut back and layoffs. As the CEO of your own company are you going to sit by and watch your company crumble or are you going to do something.
Sometimes in relationships we put more stock into other people then we do ourselves to listen to the lady at subway talk about her man and blame the whole 10 years on without no countability for her own action in the relationship is ludicrous. If you’re the CEO of your company then you’re in charge of the entire operation there shouldn’t be no coup and nothing should happen without your permission remember you are the only one who should have the majority control of your company.
I was at work the other day and me and my Co-works was talking about our kids each one of us sharing our own fun story’s about the kids.
Pat was showing a video of his daughter eating lemons for the first time, pat was laughing so hard at the faces that she had made, standing there grinning like a proud dad living and loving the moment, and then there Mr. Gordy ( a.k.a cheesey bread ) talking about how his son and daughter are growing up so fast and talking about making plans for their future, as they were talking I was laughing inside I could see the joy on their faces as they tell stories about their kids now for me these types of conversations are normal with us but if you listen to society hogwash father are extinct as the dinosaur, after they were done talking the first thing I said to them was to cherish every moment.
Now if you listen to society and their stats talking about single black women raising their kids by their self the number are alarming. According to the stats over 80% of black women take care of their children by their self with no type of help from the fathers. That stats alone will have some people scratching their head but who’s to say how accurate they are .
There are different reason why some father’s are not in their kids lives from the deadbeat dad, to the father’s that want to spend time with their child and be part of their lives but can’t for all the wrong reason. Sometimes in life there is consequence, for every action there a reaction ( good or bad) and with every coin theirs always two sides of the coin and there are some women who use their kids like chess piece’s for their own personal gain or maybe selfish reasons.
But right now I want to talk about the dads that spend time with their kids the father’s that instill values, teaches responsibility morals and respect while spending quality time with their kids.
One of my favor blog is I love my walk home I talk about how I didn’t spend as much time with my older children as I would have like to but one thing I’ve learned over the years is to enjoy every moment and I did, however limited the time may be, any type of time is always good when use wisely. When it comes to people attitudes and emotions take over in the ties can turn quickly what started off as calm beautiful Waters today can turn into tomorrows dark gleaming typhoon in a matter of seconds.
So with each and every time that you spend with your child it a moment in time for you and your kid to laugh learn grow teach listen bond together but most of all create memories that no one can take away.
In a society were they seem to preach and teach separatism between men and women I just want to acknowledge the biological father’s stepfather’s and father’s figures and that make an effort to be in their kids life the men that’s their at school functions ball games, ballet and cheerleading competitions to help with homework, be there when your kid is sick and there just to talk and listing or maybe give a helping hand I salute you The unsung hero.
Two years ago I had a real talk moment with myself and I didn’t like the answer that I got. Have you ever been fed up with grown ass people who has nothing better to do then keep some type of drama going like an episode of Love & Hip Hop.
That was me two years ago just tried of the drama an gossip same old daily routine. For me it serve no purpose to give my point of view on someone else situation especially if the person didn’t ask me for my view on the matter nor am I doing anything to make their problem better.
If I’m minding my own business and taking care of my own affairs that doesn’t leave me with a lot of time to be worried about any body else life or situations I’m too busy securing my own peace of mind and happiness to medal in anyone else life once I adopted this method life became a whole lot easier for me.
Always remember misery loves company and always looking for new friends to add to it’s ever growing list of miserable people for some people drama conflict stress is not just a way of thinking but away of life for me I rather be happy and stay positive a great mindset with positive thoughts bring positive energy .
Think about in this perspective when you trying to live healthier you eat right exercise diet all in the hope for a better life the same could be said with your mindset positive thoughts bring positive energy and positive result. If you do this with your body you should also do the same with your mind when you start eating healthy you eat plently of fruites and veagetale so we can say the same thing about ones mindset positive perspective self-esteem and appreciate what they all ready have will be a key ingredient to happiness.
One of the most inport thing in life is ones peace of mind and happiness and you shouldn’t let anyone dictate it for you no one should never have that much power over life and your happiness. Happiness is found when you stop comparing your life to other people and started appreciate yours. Sometimes we put to much stock in other people through and feeling and not enough into our own stock happiness lyes wit in sometimes you just have to give it a chance.
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